Embracing emotions, feeling what we feel, is a crucial part of the relocation process. Moving is continual chaos, full of people and tasks demanding our immediate attention. Added to those demands are the uncertainty and fear of moving to a new, unknown place.
I want you to know that a lot of what you’re feeling is normal.
Throughout the relocation process, before, during and after, there is a wide range of emotions, including anxiety and excitement. These emotions ride through us like waves, unexpectedly knocking us off our feet at times. We each react differently and become so busy that it seems easier to just keep going nonstop. As we check items off of our list, it appears as though we’re moving forward, settling in and doing just fine.
Suppressing our emotions, however, is the biggest mistake we make. Our emotions influence how we respond to situations. By not addressing how we really feel, we are not taking good care of ourselves during this mighty huge transition. Working through our emotions allows us to pause, make choices and take steps to change the way we feel.
A simple place to start is by taking a few minutes every day to reflect on how you’re feeling.
Let yourself know that it’s okay to feel this way. Follow this with a question: How would I rather be feeling instead? Give yourself a little time to think of something you can do during the day that will help you feel the way you want to feel.
Digging into emotions can feel awkward, especially when trying to do this on your own. Working with a relocation coach gives you space to openly discuss your feelings comfortably. A coach can help you not only identify your emotions and challenges, but also develop strategies to work through them properly. Acquiring a positive mindset isn’t always easy to do and coaching will help you gain what you need much faster. Accountability and encouragement are great benefits to having a coach, as well. Getting out of your comfort zone and into your new community becomes easier to not only visualize but actually go do.
Another helpful tool is RELOCATION RECOVERY, an online, self-paced course. Relocation Recovery will guide you through embracing your feelings and provide tools to process the negative emotions, such as grief, fear and anxiety, and start feeling joyful, calm and connected to your new place. The course is condensed and easy to navigate (we know from experience you don’t need one more thing added to your to do list), affordable and fun. Melody Warnick, author of This Is Where You Belong, and I created Relocation Recovery because relocation should be a much better experience, less overwhelming and much more joyful.
Whether you choose to get support or not, please promise me, and promise yourself, that you’ll give yourself the space to lean in and address your emotions, rather than holding back any grief and anger. Making your emotional wellbeing a priority will greatly reduce stress and help you more easily move forward.
*Grief and anxiety are commonly felt throughout relocation. If your emotions feel like they’re leading to depression, please seek help from a mental health professional.