Moving: 3 Things You Really Must Do

Whether you’re just moving down the street or relocating across the country, it’s possible to thrive and feel less stress; to relax and enjoy the journey of moving. Sure, it’s exhausting and disorienting for a while, but it doesn’t have to be awful. Here’s a list of 3 crucial things that you really must do in order to thrive while moving. 

1 – Make yourself a priority 

The very 1st and most important “must do” (and this isn’t the first time I’ve stressed this) is to take time out and make yourself a priority. I know. You’ve got too much to do. I hear you, but listen. Moving is the perfect time to indulge in selfcare. This may be the only way you’re going to get through it all with your sanity still intact. Indulge may be an exaggeration for what you can actually do right now. However, even a tiny, simple form of selfcare is going to go a long way. 

Let’s start with a simple meditation, 5 to 10 minutes per day. Begin by carving out a small, quiet space indoors or out, to sit or lie down. Your house, or hotel room, may be in complete disarray so close your eyes and block it out. Focus on your breathing. Take a deep breath, count to 4 while breathing in. Hold your breath for 4 seconds, and then slowly exhale. Continue to do this for a few minutes or until your thoughts slow down and your head begins to clear. 

There are also apps, including my favorite, Insight Timer, that teach meditation. I learned the hard way that it doesn’t have to be complicated. Insight has a variety of mediations of different lengths, including 2 minutes. And there are days when that’s all I have.  Taking this time out will help you stay focused and productive, AND not lose your cool when things don’t go according to plan. 

Head outside for a walk or run, even if you’ve only got 5 to 10 minutes. Take a bath, sitting in quiet stillness with your own thoughts for a while and just breath, slowly. Journal. Do what you can to clear your head in order to re-energize and re-focus.

2 – Establish or change up your morning routine 

Another essential must do is to establish, or make improvements to, your morning routine. Moving will push you outside of your current routine and comfort zone. My routine shifts depending on the time of year and my priorities. Some of the things I do first thing each morning, after I’ve fed the dogs and gotten the kid out the door, include meditation and exercise, catching up on the news over coffee, journaling and identifying my top 2 to 3 things that must get done today. My early afternoon routine, when I’m working from home, includes laundry and going through the mail. 

Your morning routine is going to be out of whack during the process of moving so use this time to consider how best to start your day. Wherever I am, I almost always consistently start with 4 to 10 minutes of meditation, coffee and exercise. 

Maintaining a consistent routine helps you feel grounded and at home, even when you’re traveling and in the middle of moving. 

A morning routine has the added benefit of helping you get organized and stay focused throughout your day. Moving is an opportunity for a do over, a fresh start. What was and wasn’t working for you previously? Are there any changes you can make so that your mornings, evenings or somewhere in between go more smoothly? Is there anything you’d like to add or remove? Find what brings you energy and joy. 

3 – Learn something new

One last must do after your move is to learn something new and have fun in the process. Take a class or join a group outing or tour. This is an opportunity to meet and connect to people who either share your interests, or dislike it as much as you do. If you take on something that doesn’t work or you’re a complete flop, own it with a sense of humor and grow through the experience.

Learning something new is not only crucial to your growth, it opens you up to new experiences and helps you adapt better to change.

If you don’t have time for a class or group outing right now, do a google search before you head out to run errands. Look for places of interest and learn something about them. Explore walking trails and learn how to teach your dog, if you have one, a new trick in the process. Discover a local park, a coffee and/or ice cream shop and fun facts about each. Find a new, and perhaps challenging, recipe and then head out with a treat to share and meet your neighbors.  

There is no limit on what counts as learning something new here. If necessary, view your move as a vacation. Get excited, dive in and see what’s around. Go to the app, Yelp, or to find new restaurants, shops and whatever else is in your new place. And don’t be afraid to go first.  

It took some work and moxie to discover these must dos. I get that you may not be ready to jump on board immediately. Your journey, experiences and pace are your own. Discover what works best for you, how fast or slowly you want to lean in. Then, embrace and enjoy your unscripted ride.  

And if you’d like more ideas and bigger challenges, enroll in the online roadmap, Relocation Recovery. Read more about it here

MOXIE, Relocation and the Podcast

MOXIE. A word I’ve been using for years. When Jaime Wilkins of Sincerely Satisfied asked if I’d be interested in doing a podcast, I immediately responded with a yes. I responded before fear had a chance of setting in.

Moxie is a spirited courageousness.

Moxie pushes me into the unknown, accepting that things out of my control are simply going to unfold, and possibly unravel. It’s bravely stepping up in all of my discomfort and awkwardness because doing something new is also an opportunity for growth.

Moxie keeps you moving forward bravely and doing new things. 

Moxie is especially crucial during relocation. In order to get acclimated, feel at home faster and attach yourself to your new place, moxie will push you to try new things. And take on new responsibilities simply because you don’t have a good reason to say no yet. Besides, feeling fear and awkward really aren’t good reasons to say no or hold back.

And the more you push through the discomfort and put yourself out there, the less awkward being new feels.

Encouraging people to say yes and step into the unpredictable, unscripted unknown of being new in a new place is what I do. So, in this podcast I lean in, acknowledge how awkward I feel and just kept going. Jaime and I talk about how saying yes and doing new things relate to relocation in this podcast, as well as authenticity, vulnerability and gratitude. (& off the record, I was happy to discover that Jaime has superb editing skills.)

So, pour yourself a cup of coffee or tea and listen to the podcast, here. We talk about RELOCATION MOXIE, mindset, gratitude and authenticity; inspire you to go first and say yes, whether you feel awkward or comfortable being new and more. Enjoy!   

Jaime and Sincerely Satisfied can be found here. And my instagram has changed since doing the podcast: marni_thriveunscripted

Relocation Podcast Marni Cummings

Being New in Town … doesn’t mean you can’t go first.

Being new in town can be challenging, and lonely. I made the mistake of spending too much time unpacking and pulling the entire house together before I finally got out and started to get acclimated to my new place. At that point, I was exhausted and emotionally drained, and it pretty much sucked.

Unpacked boxes and your chaotic, messy home are temporary. Stepping away and out is an act of kindness towards yourself. Becoming familiar with your new surroundings will help you feel grounded and acquire place attachment much faster.

Start with making the most of running errands. Use apps and sites like Yelp, TripAdvisor and anything local to find your favorite stores. Look for the local markets as well as big chains. And use them again later when looking for activities near you.

Outings don’t have to be just about errands. Start scouting the area, look for restaurants, coffee, home décor and more. Extend your errands to include a stop, something that brings you joy, even if you eat out by yourself. You’re new in town and may (hopefully) discover that going alone can be more fun than unpacking at home.

Make small talk with people you encounter, and at the very minimum, smile at people you pass. If it feels awkward, do it anyway. Whether you get to know the people you run into or not, most of these people are a part of your larger community.

It’s also normal for all of this to feel surreal for a while. And possible that you think you see people you know, who look a lot like a friend or neighbor from your previous town. Or, maybe that’s just my weird thing each time we move.

Being new is the perfect reason to go out alone.

Going out alone only feels as weird and uncomfortable as you allow. Most people don’t notice and those who do will more than likely be giving you a thumbs up in their thoughts. An added bonus, going alone means that you get to do the things that you want to do, on your agenda.

Relocation is an opportunity for a fresh start, if you desire, and to experience new people, culture and growth. A time to recreate yourself, your routines and rediscover what lights you up. Take time to reflect and journal, create lists and take notes during this transition. If you want to dig in, some questions to ponder:

  • What are my hobbies and passions, or some that I’ve neglected or haven’t pursued yet?
  • What kinds of places would I like to check out: coffee shop, yoga studio or (insert interest here)?
  • Are there any changes I want or need to make to my routine or in general?
  • What would I like to see happen living in this new place?
  • What can I do to really enjoy the process of being new?
  • When you have an idea of what interests you, finding activities and groups to join becomes easier.

As you’re meeting new people, make the first move and ask potential friends to coffee, lunch or on a playdate with the kids. Being new in town doesn’t mean you can’t go first.

If they say no, consider asking again. The timing, their mood, something that has nothing to do with you may be why they say no the first time. And keep going, keep asking.

Being new is the perfect reason to go first.

Finding new friends is like dating, and completely worth all of the agonizing moments. Ease in slowly and connect with 1 person at a time. Or dive in and attend big social gatherings. What feels best for you? Finding friends can happen quickly or, in my case, can take a few years to find the very right ones.

Connecting to people in a new place is a crucial component of loving where you live. Consider writing about your journey, laughing along the way or whatever you can to embrace and enjoy this process.

And when you’re ready for bigger challenges, sign up for Relocation Recovery or consider coaching.