Tips for Thriving at Home

* whether you just moved or not.

My ideas and suggestions for thriving at home are below and will hopefully help pull you through this unprecedented period, whether you’re in the process of relocation or not. Admittedly, I’m leaning towards overly cautious. Age and asthma have done that to me. So far, all is good. I’m trying not to stress over what I can’t control, and just do the best I can to keep my family healthy.    

And if you’re moving right now, in the spring of 2020, in the midst of Covid-19, sending you my very best wishes for a safe and healthy move. 

My favorite 3 “lean in and do” morning activities include mediation, journaling and exercise

For meditation, I use an app called Insight Timer and meditate for 3 to 20 minutes daily, depending on how I feel. This app has a huge variety of courses, preset timer options and guided meditations.

Journaling each morning is crucial for me. My practice includes free flow writing, random thoughts, organizing what needs to get done, addressing emotions and challenges for myself and my family and gratitude. Gratitude is big. I either write it into my journal entry or in a list in the back of my journal. When it comes to journaling, I go with the flow based on the time of year and how I’m feeling each morning. 

If you’re not sure where to start, Relocation Recovery is a roadmap and only $15 right now. It also goes into the importance of routine, addressing your emotions and lots more. 

Get outside. Even if for a few minutes several times a day, please get fresh air. Spend a few minutes with your eyes closed, take deep breaths, and think about what makes you happy. If you need sunshine and there isn’t any, imagine it; imagine the beach or lake and the sounds. Walk, bike or run. And if you’re new to an area, walking is a great way to start feeling attached to your new place as you explore what’s around.   

Back inside, read a book or watch a new show or movie. And re-read and re-watch your favorites! Please take breaks from the news and social media. It’s good to be informed right now. You also have control over how much to take in. What’s right for you looks different than what’s right for somebody else. My husband, for example, has the news on in the background all day while he works and that works for him. I can only handle it once or twice per day. 

One house project that doesn’t require a trip to your local hardware store is decluttering. Organizations such as goodwill are taking extra precautions, changing guidelines and hours so please look online before dropping off donations. Decluttering is a solid thriving at home activity that I do regularly.

Creatively, what makes you happy? What are you willing to try regardless of your talents? Not looking for perfection here, just a way to release some stress and let your mind wander. There are online classes on Coursera and Udemy, to name a few, and YouTube has just about anything you’re looking for and more. When was the last time you doodled for fun, wrote words in block letters and made a collage? Over the years I have tried writing, drawing and painting for fun. Focus on fun and just go do it.  

Last and most importantly, stay connected with your people. Phone and texting are great. I also recommend some sort of video connection. Google hangout, Skype and Zoom to name a few. My husband and I had happy hour this weekend with old neighbors from Atlanta on Friday evening and then family game night with my husband’s high school friends from Kansas City on Saturday night. It felt slightly more social than some of our regular weekends! We also “saw” a record number of friends in one weekend.

If you’re new to an area, start connecting with neighbors online. Neighborhood and local groups may be found on Facebook or NextDoor. Meetup.com is a great place to find people with similar interests, too. 

Embrace and Enjoy

The general idea for thriving at home is to embrace staying at home and enjoy, by doing what makes you happy along the way. One step, one day at a time. If you want or have more suggestions or want to connect for a one-on-one, send me an email: marniunscripted@gmail.com. Let me know where you are and what’s going on with you. For special offers and inspiration, sign up for email, too. Connection is crucial right now.   

Moving: 3 Things You Really Must Do

Whether you’re just moving down the street or relocating across the country, it’s possible to thrive and feel less stress; to relax and enjoy the journey of moving. Sure, it’s exhausting and disorienting for a while, but it doesn’t have to be awful. Here’s a list of 3 crucial things that you really must do in order to thrive while moving. 

1 – Make yourself a priority 

The very 1st and most important “must do” (and this isn’t the first time I’ve stressed this) is to take time out and make yourself a priority. I know. You’ve got too much to do. I hear you, but listen. Moving is the perfect time to indulge in selfcare. This may be the only way you’re going to get through it all with your sanity still intact. Indulge may be an exaggeration for what you can actually do right now. However, even a tiny, simple form of selfcare is going to go a long way. 

Let’s start with a simple meditation, 5 to 10 minutes per day. Begin by carving out a small, quiet space indoors or out, to sit or lie down. Your house, or hotel room, may be in complete disarray so close your eyes and block it out. Focus on your breathing. Take a deep breath, count to 4 while breathing in. Hold your breath for 4 seconds, and then slowly exhale. Continue to do this for a few minutes or until your thoughts slow down and your head begins to clear. 

There are also apps, including my favorite, Insight Timer, that teach meditation. I learned the hard way that it doesn’t have to be complicated. Insight has a variety of mediations of different lengths, including 2 minutes. And there are days when that’s all I have.  Taking this time out will help you stay focused and productive, AND not lose your cool when things don’t go according to plan. 

Head outside for a walk or run, even if you’ve only got 5 to 10 minutes. Take a bath, sitting in quiet stillness with your own thoughts for a while and just breath, slowly. Journal. Do what you can to clear your head in order to re-energize and re-focus.

2 – Establish or change up your morning routine 

Another essential must do is to establish, or make improvements to, your morning routine. Moving will push you outside of your current routine and comfort zone. My routine shifts depending on the time of year and my priorities. Some of the things I do first thing each morning, after I’ve fed the dogs and gotten the kid out the door, include meditation and exercise, catching up on the news over coffee, journaling and identifying my top 2 to 3 things that must get done today. My early afternoon routine, when I’m working from home, includes laundry and going through the mail. 

Your morning routine is going to be out of whack during the process of moving so use this time to consider how best to start your day. Wherever I am, I almost always consistently start with 4 to 10 minutes of meditation, coffee and exercise. 

Maintaining a consistent routine helps you feel grounded and at home, even when you’re traveling and in the middle of moving. 

A morning routine has the added benefit of helping you get organized and stay focused throughout your day. Moving is an opportunity for a do over, a fresh start. What was and wasn’t working for you previously? Are there any changes you can make so that your mornings, evenings or somewhere in between go more smoothly? Is there anything you’d like to add or remove? Find what brings you energy and joy. 

3 – Learn something new

One last must do after your move is to learn something new and have fun in the process. Take a class or join a group outing or tour. This is an opportunity to meet and connect to people who either share your interests, or dislike it as much as you do. If you take on something that doesn’t work or you’re a complete flop, own it with a sense of humor and grow through the experience.

Learning something new is not only crucial to your growth, it opens you up to new experiences and helps you adapt better to change.

If you don’t have time for a class or group outing right now, do a google search before you head out to run errands. Look for places of interest and learn something about them. Explore walking trails and learn how to teach your dog, if you have one, a new trick in the process. Discover a local park, a coffee and/or ice cream shop and fun facts about each. Find a new, and perhaps challenging, recipe and then head out with a treat to share and meet your neighbors.  

There is no limit on what counts as learning something new here. If necessary, view your move as a vacation. Get excited, dive in and see what’s around. Go to the app, Yelp, or yelp.com to find new restaurants, shops and whatever else is in your new place. And don’t be afraid to go first.  

It took some work and moxie to discover these must dos. I get that you may not be ready to jump on board immediately. Your journey, experiences and pace are your own. Discover what works best for you, how fast or slowly you want to lean in. Then, embrace and enjoy your unscripted ride.  

And if you’d like more ideas and bigger challenges, enroll in the online roadmap, Relocation Recovery. Read more about it here

Embrace and Enjoy Relocation

Relocation is exhausting, energy draining. I learned the hard way, after moving twice in less than 3 ½ years, that it is vital to my wellbeing to find ways to embrace and enjoy the process of moving.

Let’s play the Would You Rather game for a moment.

Would you rather put move related tasks and ensuring that your family is acclimating well at the top of your priority list, at the risk of ignoring your own grief and anxiety? 

OR would you rather include your own emotional and self care needs on that list in order to create a much less stressful and enjoyable relocation?

When we moved the first time, my perspective regarding moving was good. It was also really hard leaving our home and friends after 11 years. This is the place where I met my husband and we started our family. We were settled and happy with our neighborhood and jobs, and the life we built around them. We were moving to a city much closer to family (1 ½ hours) for the first time, and in a neighborhood with friends around the corner. Both big pluses.

Putting more emphasis on the positive things about relocation allowed me to start connecting and embrace the move right away.

Our second move, 3 years 4 months later, took 4 years to feel settled and at home. One big change was that we moved further away from the heart of a city. I got really stuck on the fact that we live so far out and was not ready to move again so quickly. Looking back, I can clearly see that I prioritized the moving details and wellbeing of my family over taking care of myself and my emotions. That was a lot more comfortable than admitting I was grieving and anxious.

In hindsight, as a coach, I know that I should have done a much better job then, including establishing place attachment. I now fully understand both the difficulty and importance of addressing stress and fear, and taking care of our self while caring for the needs of others.

Focusing on the positive points about relocation, turning it into an adventure, if necessary, is a good first step to take.

Moving can happen too quickly in some cases. Regardless of timeframe, it is vital to take time out for ourselves, to work through emotions even when they are messy. Embracing relocation and creating a much less stressful, enjoyable experience involves taking care of yourself and developing strategies to address the challenges.

As a Relocation Coach, my priority is making sure you fully embrace and enjoy your relocation journey, and fully thrive, starting wherever you need the most support. If you or someone you know are in the process of moving, let’s connect.

To learn more about our self paced and affordable online course, read about it here or click on Relocation Recovery to go directly to the course.

For information regarding coaching and packages, please visit my coaching page.

Embrace and Enjoy, 

Marni